I generally don’t ask much of people.
Truth. That’s the biggest thing I ask. I don’t like liars, and can’t stand hypocrites. I would rather have someone tell me an uncomfortable truth, than a pretty lie. Truth is the only way I can decide what I need to do in my life. If I don’t have truth, then it’s all just fake, and I don’t do fake. I love fantasy for entertainment, not for my own real, everyday life. Simple.
Respect. I try to respect everyone for their differences, not in spite of them. Everyone has different gifts and talents, and they need to be treated to common human decency (although the “common” part of that phrase doesn’t seem to be so common these days). I expect the same from people around me. If I’m going to respect you, and all that you bring to the table, then the least you can do is respect me, and my differences. I’m not like anyone else, I’m original, and different, and special. Because I’m me. You are different, and original and unique, because you’re you. You want the respect, you gotta bring it. Simple.
That’s it. Pretty short list, but essential – at least to me. I don’t expect everyone I meet to like me, to find me fascinating, or even interesting. I know that not everyone in the world that I meet throughout my life is going to like me. And that realization doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I don’t expect to like everyone I meet, either, so it’s only fair. These are deal-breakers for me, and I don’t back down.
I’m a simple kind of girl.
And sometimes, that can lead to heartbreak.
There are people who love to play games. They tell you one thing, talking a good game, and then go on and do something completely different. They’ll lead you down the primrose path, all smiles and, if not necessarily promises, at least the strong illusion of positive intent.
And I have a tendency to trust people. I give my trust, at least superficially, right from the start. I will give someone a lot of leeway, and second chances for what, at first glance, might appear to be an innocent unfortunate remark or mistake in judgment. I can’t hold a grudge for long, and am willing to forgive a lot. Prove that you’re worth the trust that I give, and you’ll be let in to the “inner circle”, and will be given almost carte blanche in my life.
Betray the deal-breakers? Lie to me, show me that you’re a hypocrite, or disrespect me or the ones that I care about? And all bets are off.
I might not hold a grudge for long… but that’s because I’ll cut that person from my life like a patch of diseased skin. Slough it off and move myself away from them, both physically and emotionally.
I’m a simple kind of girl. Respect me, tell me the truth, don’t be a hypocrite, and we’ll be fine. Break the rules? And I’m done, gone, over and out.