My little girl is growing up way too quickly.
YoungerDaughter – my little Haus Frau, my Haus Maus baby-girl who used to sit with me for hours on end when she was little….
has a crush on an older boy young man some dude who is actually older than EldestDaughter.
So now, she’s taking great pains with her hair, makeup and clothes every day, striving to look older, more sophisticated, than her formerly happily-scrunched 17-year old self.
And while I haven’t met this guy, I’ve seen his picture, and he doesn’t look much older than YD, so that makes it more difficult. Trying to reconcile the actual age he is, with the age he looks, coupled with the fact that he works at the same restaurant that YD does, which is normally a young-person’s type of job. (He just finished school – college – as an “older student”, with my sister-in-law, another “older student”…. *sob*)
Yeah, he’s over 21. By a couple few years.
Yeah, once YD hits 18 this summer, it won’t make that big of a difference.
I know that “age is just a number” and that once you reach a certain number, it really doesn’t matter how many years separate 2 people that care about one another. My brother and sister-in-law are 12 years apart, and they do just fine.
But it makes a difference now.
And I’m not ready for it.
I’m not sure YD’s ready for it.
So far, this guy doesn’t know that YD likes him this much.
And I’m hoping (read desperately praying) that this is just a crush, and that it will blow over by graduation, or shortly after.
Please?
He may not be interested in someone so young. Most of the restaurant guys I know who are over 21 are friendly and nice to the younger girls, but they aren’t interested in dating them…it’s the pervy 30-40 year old men you have to worry about.
This is true, and I’m hoping that this is just a “soft crush” that fades on its own without major crushing and traumatic fallout. *Crossing fingers, eyes, toes, legs, etc.*