Yesterday was not good.
Yesterday was, in fact, rather awful.
Migraine pain, overwhelmed at work, & just plain irritated, all I wanted was to be left alone to do my job.
Just let me work, K?
Yet, there were some in my vicinity who just had to give me their point of view on my situation.
No, I didn’t go up to them and say “I’m in a foul mood, talk me out of it.”
Nor did I even say anything concerning my mood, my workload, or the state of the union in general.
I was answering a question for one, when the other person interrupted to comment that it seemed as though I was in a bad mood.
Yeah, I am – now, back to the question.
But – didn’t I want to talk about it?
No, not especially. Can we just work?
*sigh* apparently not. Lovely woman that she is, she really wanted to try to help me out of my bad mood… but I was -a) in pain from the migraine, & b) just plain fed up with the day, I had gone into “overload mode”.
“I know just how you feel…”
Um, no. You don’t. You can’t.
Because, you see, that would be empathy. And unless you were born into my family, raised by the people I was, lived through all the experiences I have, & made all the exact same choices I’ve made…
You can never know exactly how I feel.
You can sympathize. Definitely. You can commiserate, sure. But true empathy? Where you can literally feel my feelings?
Mighty rare, and I don’t think it was happening in this case.
I kind of blew off the advice.
I knew what I needed.
I needed the day to be over, so I could come home & decompress. I needed to break down & cry in my shower- wash away all the tears and let the ugly just be there. Let it wash over me, and through me, so it could pass.
So, while I appreciate the thought, and the willingness to want to help?
Just let me be in a bad mood all by myself, please?
Let me be, & this too shall eventually pass.
Try to “jolly” me out by telling me to “don’t let it get to you”?
And you’ll put yourself on the list of people I will most likely avoid when I’m not feeling 100%.
Because, no, in fact, you have NO IDEA how I’m feeling.