Anxiety has been so bad tonight. It’s been bad for the last couple of weeks.
But not to look at me.
If you just look, I am normal – smiling, joking, & getting along, doing my work, handling my business…
This is the face of anxiety.
Take another look at the eyes.
Take a good look.
There’s tension there.
There’s a twitch, just there in the corner of one eye, constantly fluttering.
There’s a tightness around the eyes, pulling at the edges, headache darting between the brows.
The smile looks almost real, though, doesn’t it?
Slightly wilted, tired, resigned.
But it fools the masses.
And makes sure that no one notices the trembles.
The hint of vibration that never leaves.
My body is wound so tightly I feel like an over-tuned violin, ready to snap as soon as the bow draws across it the first time.
And this – is the face after the crash.
The face that no one sees.
The worry drawn tight over the brow.
The grief and guilt filling in the mouth.
The resignation that smears the vision.
Knowing it’s just a matter of time before the other shoe drops.
Nobody gets to see this face if I can help it.
It shatters the illusion that everything works. That I’m Ok, all lights green across the board, engines full and running at capacity.
This is the face after the mask comes off.
I’m tired of hiding, of pretending. I’m tired of everyone thinking that anxiety is just a random worry.
It’s real, it’s painful, it’s constant & it’s not something I can be rid of just by “calming down”.
I take medication every day to control the worst of it, or I probably wouldn’t be able to function.
This- is my reality.
It’s not the whole of who I am.
But it is real.
And that’s what I’m here, blogging for.
To be in one place where I can be real.
My nephew and I talk honestly to each other all the time. We don’t pull our words back, because we don’t have to.
But there are times when I need to see the words in front of me, splayed out like a bloody corpse, flayed, raw & bleeding all over the page.
Therapy at it’s deepest level.
Minus the shiny buckles on the strapped jacket.