This evening was beautiful.
I spent some time outside, knowing it was probably going to be one of the few, really nice days left of the fall weather.
I mowed, & planted my lily bulbs for next spring.
I got back in touch with the heartbeat of the earth, and with my own.
And while I was working my hands in the dirt…I was thinking about “Things”.
How many “things” I have.
How many I care about.
Whether I care about “things” at all.
And I came to a conclusion.
The only things I truly Care about…
All have a heartbeat.
My family, chosen and blood, my friends, my 2 cats.
Everything else can be replaced.
But not the heartbeats.
Those are finite.
I’ve lost a few of those over the years, and a handful just within the last couple of years. They are irreplaceable. Gone forever, they exist now only in my memories, and in the memories of the others whose lives they touched.
And, sometimes it hurts, knowing that the only way I can connect to the heartbeats I love so much is through the phone.
This is why I’ve thought about moving closer to my Beloved Nephew.
At least being there, I know I’d be near someone who truly wanted me to be there. Someone who values my heartbeat as much as I value his. As Chosen Family, and my best friend, our friendship is one of those irreplaceable things I cherish.
And here… Well, after everything that’s happened here, I do have a couple of good friends, but no romantic life… and pretty much only painful reminders of heartbreak and rejection. Not exactly a rousing endorsement to stay.
So, I’m going to pack my heartbeat up in cotton, and pad it against breakage for the coming cold months. I’ll work on savoring the moments I get to have with those I cherish, even if it’s only over the phone, and get rid of a few “things” I no longer need.
There’s plenty I can do without.