I’ve been stoked all week for Pride Week here in my city.
There are a lot of events happening, and I’m going to a couple of them, including a Drag show & a “Pride in the Park” day, where a bunch of things will be going on, all at once.
I feel so much empathy, and a strangely welcoming aura, that I don’t get from many groups, when I am in the LGBTQIAP community presence…it’s comforting and strengthening, to me.
Stupidly, I’m welling up with emotion as I type this, I’m just…
I’ve been so excited for this, I’ve been talking about it in my office, trying to see if there were any other women who might, possibly, be interested in going to one of the events. The drag show, the park, whatever. I just…kind of wanted to share the wonderful experiences I’ve had with others.
And, instead, the commentary I received back – wasn’t very complimentary.
It wasn’t outright horrible, but…it was, backhanded, snickering, in some cases, spluttering and a quick look of disgust, before quickly covering it with polite disdain.
It was, to say the least, really disheartening, to me.
You see… I’m Pagan.
I am already a minority.
I came out to my coworkers after a long 6 months of debating with myself whether I should or not, way back in 2000, when I started working with some of the same women I still work with today.
We live in a mostly-Republican state, pretty conservative, and yet, I’ve never had a really bad reaction, in this city, from anyone I’ve told about my faith. I feel I’ve been pretty lucky in that regard, as I know there are many who face regular discrimination over their religious beliefs.
These women had absolutely no trouble accepting that I had a non-mainstream religion…
And yet, I can honestly say, that I don’t feel as though anyone who is not hetero, would feel comfortable coming out working there.
Granted, there ARE a couple of women who are totally accepting and friendly towards non-hetero, so I won’t say it’s everyone.
But I was….sad, disheartened, and I felt a little let down.
Which is stupid, again.
They don’t owe me jack shit.
But…I can’t ever, really, be my true self around them.
And, that’s just another layer between them and me that must be applied and maintained, for everyone’s comfort.