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A Moment of Time- the ‘Versary

A little over a year ago, I posted a philosophical question on Facebook, and a possible answer that I’d found.  It was a late-night meandering of my brain, and I was thinking out loud – or at least, virtually.

A little over a year ago, I received a private message via FB that changed the way I live my life.  A family member took offense at my musings on my own FB page, and wrote me a scathing e-mail, basically ruining any future chance we had or have for any kind of familial relationship.

So, a little over a year ago, I started a “web journal” for my thoughts.  It started out just for me, over on another blogging site.  I wasn’t happy with the mechanics of their web tools, though.  So, when I discovered that one of my favorite authors, Kim Harrison, uses WordPress, I flipped my blog over here.

And exactly one year ago today, I posted my first post.  Basically the same thing that I’d posted to Facebook that cold November night, but expanded slightly, just because I could.

Here, I found that I could say whatever I liked, and not have to deal with hatemail.  It was the wonder of not just anonymity, but of feeling like the people that were out here, in this vast place known as the “blogosphere” with me, were doing the same thing.  Live and let live is, for the most part, the motto here.  You do you, I’ll do me, and we’ll all get along just fine.  If  you liked it, post a reply, send a smiley – and if you didn’t?  Well, click away, and there were a million more blogs to read that had nothing whatsoever to do with me. 

Shouting into the darkness, I found that there were people out there that not only shouted back, but that actually stuck around to read more.  I found people that, while they had their own things going on, were willing to help me get through what I had to say.  And I was able to help them, as well, sometimes. 

In this last year, I’ve laughed more, cried more, made so many new wonderful friends, and reconnected with old friends I thought possibly lost to time.  I’ve been able to drag my memories up out of the darkness, and wipe the dust from them, seeing them clearer than I have in a long time, helping me to deal with some of the darker ones, and laugh or cry again at the good ones.

I can never really express the depth of what I’ve gained from this experience.  It has been an amazing year, and I’m still stunned by it.  I went from being giddy that 1 person had checked into my page in a week, to constant amazement at the numbers of people that stop by, on a regular basis, and have simply fit themselves into my day. 

There are people now, that I’ve never met face to face, but I hate the thought of not checking in with them – every day.  I read about their lives, they read about mine.  We laugh and cry together.  We get angry and promise to back one another up in a fight.  We have mutual admiration societies, and flash mobs when one of our group goes to a new place, posts a guest post on someone’s blog, or needs people to click somewhere to help them out.  We all rush in droves to click happily away, supporting each other, standing by one another.

Chosen family. 

Those 2 words have popped up a lot in the last year, and will continue to be a part of my life now.  There are no ties of blood, no obligation to do these things, or help one another.  Nothing that binds us, but our own desire to be there for them.

And, going back to my original post on faith vs. logic?  There’s no logic I can point to, no concrete evidence I can dig up, that tells me why this has worked, and done so well for me.  But I have Faith that it is what was meant.  I needed this, one year ago.  I had no idea how it would turn out when I clicked that button telling me to “Get your own blog!”, but I needed it.  And I have Faith that I did the right thing that day, 1 year ago.

I wouldn’t have missed it for anything.  Thank you WordPress, for an amazing year.

Brightest blessings~ Brea

P.S.  I had to add, just as I was finishing this post, and publishing it, a friend RebelRegan popped in and dropped a gorgeous new header in my lap for the blog!  The serendipity and synchronicity of this is wonderful!  Thanks, my friend!

24 thoughts on “A Moment of Time- the ‘Versary

  1. What an amazing post Brea! Is it not just totally mind-boggling what a little blog can do in your life? I am so thankful that Sparrow introduced us. I could not imagine my chosen family without YOU in it! Thank YOU for being an amazing friend Brea! Congrats on the amazing year…..here’s to MANY, MANY more!! 🙂

    • Aww, *sniffle* THANKS! 😀 BigBrotherMark *who’s always watching 😉 * I feel exactly the same! Now, where’s that corkscrew, time to pop the top on that champagne!

  2. I agree with the Idiot above (no ill intent meant by that, lol).

    I started my blog on MSN Spaces back when they first started, I grew to myspace and then moved onward. My first blog was years ago, and I finally found a home and place that I feel great with posting. I think the most astounding thing you wrote was, “I found people that, while they had their own things going on, were willing to help me get through what I had to say. And I was able to help them, as well, sometimes.”

    The help, the support, the comments alone are what helped me get through the darkest moments of my life. Especially when I was at my lowest, and felt that there wasn’t support. I have a lot of familial problems as well. I started my blog not as a private place to vent without issue from family, but as a way to just purge my thoughts without losing their meaning.

    I have come to really enjoy yours, as I’ve said before. Here’s to you, an amazing last year, and love, luck, success and life in the new year.

    • Thanks! One of the most important things I’ve learned this year is that, even though the people you meet online may never be there physically, the virtual community has so much emotional support available, through the friendships and communities, that you never have to ever feel alone again. There’s always someone out there who will understand. And hearing from someone that “they get it, they’ve been there, they KNOW”, fills me up.

      I’m not alone. And neither are you. Never again. Even if the internet were to *knocking on wood, crossing fingers/eyes/toes AGAINST this* disappear tomorrow, I’d still know that there were people out there that just KNEW. And that makes all the difference in the world.

  3. A very big Happy Blogiversary to you!!!
    I have been blogging for a bit longer but I concur with everything you have said.
    What continues to astonish me about this blogging thing is how people from all corners of the world, of all beliefs and none, find such powerful common ground and, let us not mince our words- LOVE.
    Through blogging I have made dear wonderful friends, I have also found my longlost “brother” and as well as all that, to some degree I found and find every day, myself.
    Three cheers for Brea and her beautiful blog!!!!

    • 😀 Thanks, Viv! It has been quite the amazing trip so far. Now I just need to find a rest stop here, stretch for a minute, get some snacks, and I’m off and running again! XD

  4. You know what else I have found amazing in blogosphere? The blog walking via other people’s blogs. If it weren’t for your post Idiot wouldn’t have found my blog. If it weren’t for your post, Viv wouldn’t have commented and I wouldn’t have stumbled onto hers.

    It’s great to see that one like minded person draws in others going through similiar situations.

    For that, Thank you Brea.

    • I guess this is one of the many times where the concept of a web of life springs to mind.
      Years back I worked as an education officer on a nature reserve (rubbish pay, rotten conditions, great colleagues and a lot of fun) we did an activity where we connected a whole load of kids using string(it was meant to illustrate food webs etc) and if the kids did it well, a tiny tug on one length of string could be felt by virtually everyone in the wbe.
      The Native American saying, We are all related, comes to life via the ‘net and most deeply and easily seen via blogging.
      yes, thank you all.

      • I’ve always loved the “web” imagery. Interconnected, the vibrations are felt across the whole. It makes total sense and has that “click” of rightness.

    • Oh, and those are two of the all-time greats to have in your corner! 🙂

      I was led here, and I’m grateful. I was led to my new friends, and I’m ecstatic!

  5. Wonderful post! Happy Anniversary. I just started blogging with WordPress but started for the same reasons and have had similar experiences so far. I am grateful!

  6. Happy, happy, happy blogoversary toooooo youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!!!!!!!!

    * Does a dance *

    • Oh, honey, thanks! I’m so glad to see you up and about! And dancing, no less! 😀 I’m headin’ over to yer place in a minute to dance with you!

  7. Happy Blogiversary to youuuuu,
    Happy Blogiversary to youuuuu!
    Happy Blogiversary, dear Bre-aaaaaaaa,
    Happy Blogiversary to youuuuu!

    Whoooo!! I can’t believe it’s been a year already, and I’m guessing that my blogiversary will be coming up in a couple of months, ever since you talked me into blogging too!

    Can’t wait for lunch on Friday!

    • I know, right?? Wow. I look back and sounding like what’s-his-futz, I say “Did I do THAT?” *insert geek-voice*

      I am SO ready for Friday. 🙂

  8. Happy blogiversary! Truly! I’m sorry for the impetus, but quite happy to have found you. You struck a chord with me. I happen to have a thing for the freedom of shouting in the darkness.

    Kudos on the new header, too!

  9. Gongrats, Brea 🙂 Now I’ll have to drink one for your blog too… It seems like it’ll be a funny weekend 🙂

    The new header is great! Live and let live is really what makes the blogosphere so great, so glad that you’ve clicked that button a year ago 🙂

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